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There are many kinds of people. Some more than others are able to handle their affairs.

If you’re blessed with the ability to be able to manage your circumstances, it’s very likely at some point you’ll be asked to lend a hand.

While I think that everyone should be willing to help, you must be careful when allocating yourself to others. You can easily overextend yourself, leaving very little time for keeping up your health, wealth, or mental well-being.

It’s hard to see the limit before you cross it. But once you have, you know it.

It’s also difficult to bring yourself back to the other side of it. Caring for yourself is paramount, as you’re no good to anyone (yourself included) if you’ve lost your ability to manage your affairs.

Weekly Rundown

Some thoughts about the week:

Traveling now is crazy. Surrealism at its worst. A mixture of mask-wearing and social distancing; half-empty airports and planes. I don’t know if the extra room is nice or discomforting.

Parts of the country are reopening. It’s another mixture of weighing safety and practicality. Are we ready to resume eating out? Or is it still a bit too nerve-racking? With limited seating, maybe it too feels entirely surreal.

Essential work is something of a double-edged sword. While I miss working, I’m thankful for the security of having seclusion. Those who are out still and doing jobs that need doing – you can’t help but hope for their safety.

Models for assessing the scope and fatality rate of Covid-19 are constantly evolving, and the only thing certain is that no one seems to know anything. It’s a lot of conjecture as the science catches up with reality, but it is a public health threat and we should be careful.

The post-pandemic world is one that is highly anticipated, even if we’ve no clue what it’s actually going to look like. For now, I guess, we stay safe and try to remain creative and hopeful.

Balance in the market

Balance. We seek balance in creativity so that, in what we are offering to the world, it is worth someone’s time to consume and provides value to us as well.

Occasionally, rarely even, the value of something created far surpasses what the price is set to. Usually, it’s fairly-priced or may be slanted in favor of the seller. (This is evident in the increasing corporate profits we see.)

But I am specifically addressing creative endeavors. Nearly all work begins as a creative endeavor. From the fast-food restaurant to the newest computer, everything begins its life as an idea.

Basic economic market theory tells us that laws of supply and demand will set the prices for these goods and services. The problem is that the creative mind will feel the pressures of creation. The questions of “is it good enough?” or “can I do it again?” will inevitably arise.

Success feels great, but failure is much more common. Seeking balance is an exercise in feeling valued yourself. Not overvalued, or undervalued. But fairly valued.

 

Essential workers

The country is in the process of reopening, but some people have been working nonstop during this crisis. When we are so focused on our own internal strife, it’s seems possible we may neglect thinking of those who are working and have been

So thank you to them who have kept us going all along.

Other people’s dreams

“Talent hits a target no one else can hit. Genius hits a target no one else can see.” – Arthur Schopenhauer

We tend to find a dream through modeling – that is, we see someone working at something we think we would like, or living a life we would like to have – and that’s how we decide to make progress towards a future goal.

But it seems that there is a special group that are able to envision an entirely different way of life. Further separated are those who find ways of transforming those visions into reality.

There is nothing wrong with modeling. In fact, many business and self-help icons will tell you that modeling is an efficient means of achieving success.

The alternative in goal-setting, though, is to work towards that which has never been created. To develop something truly original.

Recent items of interest

In lieu of the weekly rundown, which I’m still toying with how to make it more interesting, here are some things of note I came across over the past few weeks:

To an audience of one

I have many issues with writing. I’ll admit that openly. It’s not something that I really thought of doing, writing for any purpose, but having done it almost consistently in morning pages for over four years and daily for this for the better part of the past twelve months, I’ve learned some things about myself.

One, it’s important to just do it. I can create any excuse to not, but as long as I sit down and actually write, then I’m writing. It’s really that simple.

I love research and learning, and the act of discovery. Partially why I love to travel. But when I get an idea, if I’m not careful, I can research it to death. To the point where I don’t even want to write about the idea. And if I just sit down and get some of this stuff on the page, then it’s out of me.

Two, writing to an audience is a challenge. Once I start writing to someone (or someones) that I don’t know, I start to self-censor. And that, I’ve found, to be incredibly limiting. Not that I want to throw around a lot of swear words in whatever I’m writing, but that bit of mental blockade starts to creep up – the one where you worry about what people think about you.

Steven Pressfield calls this the Resistance. On Resistance, Pressfield writes in Do the Work: “…any act that rejects immediate gratification in favor of long-term growth, health, or integrity.

Or, expressed another way, any act that derives from our higher nature instead of our lower. Any of these acts will elicit Resistance.”

Now I don’t know whether my form of writing could in any way be called ‘an act derived from my higher nature.’ But I do know that I have things to say, and I seem to do okay writing them out.

In writing to a mass audience I seem to lose my presence of mind in the face of resistance.

So, three, it’s better to write as if you are writing to someone specific. When Tim Ferriss wrote The Four-Hour Workweek, he wrote it “with two of [his] closest friends in mind, speaking directly to them and their problems…”

You can find a lot of inspiration for how you write from your friends who are in the same boat. Creatives who are stuck in survival jobs, or can’t seem to get past the block they’re feeling, or just can’t create for any number of reasons. I write these posts mostly to them, and also myself, trying to tell me things I’d like to hear.

Four, Ira Glass said something that resonated with me:

“Nobody tells this to people who are beginners, I wish someone told me. All of us who do creative work, we get into it because we have good taste. But there is this gap. For the first couple years you make stuff, it’s just not that good. It’s trying to be good, it has potential, but it’s not. But your taste, the thing that got you into the game, is still killer. And your taste is why your work disappoints you. A lot of people never get past this phase, they quit. Most people I know who do interesting, creative work went through years of this.”

And it’s true. You emulate the writers you like, and the work you do isn’t only derivative – it tends to be not good. And that can be crushing. The resistance takes ahold of that, and it reinforces your belief that this is all you’ll ever create: bad work.

But it isn’t true. It takes time to become better. It takes commitment. Just by the act of doing it, creating bad work, making mistakes; you get to improve then. Which leads me to;

Five. If you’re not shipping, as Seth Godin calls it, it doesn’t matter. You have to ship the work. Get it out there. Ignore the resistance as it attempts to dissuade you.

That’s a lot of what makes up my writing practice now. Come next year I’ll likely know more. And that, my friend, I’m okay with.

 

Weekends

Usually, weekends are a great time to relax. To shrug off the work week, get some things done around the house, and take it easy.

The new world doesn’t seem to take that into account. We haven’t yet sorted out the unique ways that our emotional and mental stability needs restructuring during these stressful times.

I wish that it wasn’t the case. I’d love for nothing more than this pandemic to never have happened, or at least be far behind us. But, it isn’t. Not yet.

I don’t really want to write about it. But I, like most everyone, has the virus implanted securely in their mind. It’s an incessant thought and even in those moments where you are enjoying time with loved ones, it’s burrowing its way forward trying to remind you that the world is different.

Lacking some great advice that will surely make the strain less, it’s difficult to write about much of anything. There are few words to make this moment any better. It’s a generation-defining moment. It’s an inordinate challenge that few of us, if any, were equipped to handle. We’re all trying our best and doing what we can.

So this weekend, I hope everyone is being safe and considerate as best they can. That they know with certainty that this too will pass. And that, hopefully tomorrow, I’ll have something a little to write about that isn’t focused on how I’m spending quarantine or isn’t about a pandemic.

A slow walk

On walking around through various parks and city streets, I notice the importance of taking one’s time.

We’re often consumed by the need to be connected and now, maybe more so than ever, our connections are only possible through devices.

When you take the time to travel slowly, to linger, to be idle (while socially distant, of course), you have the opportunity to see things you’d otherwise miss. You hear the birdsong. See the leaves billow in the wind. Branches swaying.

There’s no one right way to travel the world. But there are things that are missed when moving too quickly.

Weekly Rundown

Well, damn, I don’t really have much to say about this past week. Left Alaska, and am taking a roundabout journey through the country. Had to fly to get from Ketchikan to the lower 48, and rather than risk quarantine with family, where someone I know could come in contact with something I may have contracted on the plane, it was better to take my time.

I haven’t seen much. Some snowy mountains outside of Colorado, and some rolling hills. I would have liked to have spent more time in Arizona. It seemed nice passing through.

Not sure what I’ll see or do over the next three weeks, but I’m hoping I’ll have some interesting updates… maybe by next week.