“To bring possiblities into your life, unfold beginner’s mind in all situations.
The world can be too much if tried to take in all at once. Instead, small chunks are significantly more managable.
Approach it as if it were new. Always be a beginner.
“Talent hits a target no one else can hit. Genius hits a target no one else can see.” – Arthur Schopenhauer
We tend to find a dream through modeling – that is, we see someone working at something we think we would like, or living a life we would like to have – and that’s how we decide to make progress towards a future goal.
But it seems that there is a special group that are able to envision an entirely different way of life. Further separated are those who find ways of transforming those visions into reality.
There is nothing wrong with modeling. In fact, many business and self-help icons will tell you that modeling is an efficient means of achieving success.
The alternative in goal-setting, though, is to work towards that which has never been created. To develop something truly original.
Here’s a confession for you. I’ve started reading Napolean Hill’s Think and Grow Rich like three times, and each time I just can’t seem to finish it.
It’s a bit embarrassing, really. This seminal work of putting the mind to use in directing your future – the benchmark of self-help gurus from Tony Robbins to Wayne Dyer to Robert Kiyosaki – and damned if I wasn’t flummoxed by it.
But, I always remember that first story in the book. It just sticks with me.
Edwin C. Barnes, who with nothing more than the burning desire to work with inventor Thomas Edison, took a freight train to the inventor’s factory in New Jersey and asked to partner with him. What he got was a job as a floor sweeper, which he accepted without hesitation.
Just a few years later, Barnes took Edison’s invention, the Ediphone, and sold it to great commercial and personal success. His dream became true because he thought and believed and then acted upon it.
While I suppose I never had the burning desire to finish Hill’s book, perhaps I absorbed some of it through mere repetitive osmosis. Have a burning desire. Act upon it. And the mind will corroborate to achieve your success.
This has been a great opportunity for inside learning. I’ve been spending time with Lynda.com and Khan Academy. But there are a lot of other good learning resources.
- For coding and programming, Codecademy.
- For careers in tech like product management, sales, operations, and more, visit School16.
- Coursera offers online options for free, as well as paid.
- And even Yale is offering it’s Science of Happiness course, online for free.
When I started writing this blog four years ago, it was two parts. One, it was an opportunity to ship regularly. To write, and practice writing, and publish. To accept imperfection. Because, writing itself is a process, and I often let words tumble as they may.
The second, and perhaps the more important aspect, was as a coping mechanism. It gave me a platform to lay out my thoughts on a lot of personal issues. And I didn’t perhaps put as much intimate detail into these posts as I could have. As I’ve written recently, the dichotomy of public/private perception has been a challenge for me to work through. That is, being afraid of opening up.
It isn’t that we don’t do it as a species. Even culturally, some are apt to show their emotional content without any pretext. Americans, I feel, not so much. Me included.
It’s hard to open up – to expose your self and what you believe are your weaknesses. To “showing your throat” to what may be a dangerous opponent. And yet, the more we train ourselves not to, the harder it becomes, even with those we care about deeply.
While we shouldn’t go through life as an emotional whirlwind, it is important to try and be as authentic as possible – which means not closing off the feelings that we’re afraid to let others see.
It’s what I sometimes try and do here. Just to brush against authenticity. It doesn’t happen all the time. Even here, the Resistance feels a need to make its presence known. But it’s not about getting there. It’s all about the steps that are taken between here and there.
Checking in after the first three months of 2020. Where do those pesky resolutions rate?
I’m following my two focus words: Adventure & Bravery. In Alaska. During a pandemic. Well, we’re all being a little bit brave, aren’t we?
All in all, three months in, life is progressing – though admittedly on hold until the threat of COVID-19 subsides. When the world starts turning again we’ll be well underway into the second quarter of the year.
I’ve been reading a great deal, looking at potential creative endeavors, and reworking some projects that I’ve put off during this downtime. When this clears up, it’ll be a great time to hit the ground running!
One could make a case for now being a great time to hide. There’s certainly a lot to hide from.
What I find interesting is that many of us are being faced with ourselves in a way that we aren’t accustomed to. We’re mostly locked down, unable to do those things we’ve grown used to doing – such as eating out, grabbing a drink in a bar, maybe attending a movie or a show or a sporting event.
We look at ourselves, and wonder, “Now what?”
But apart from the safety we seek, we’re able to look inward in a way that our lifestyle may have been preventing. Wherever you go, that’s where you are.
It isn’t a good time to hide. It’s a good time to find yourself.
You are the captain of your own ship. When tides ebb and flow, you have the mast. Your heading is up to you.
Do you take the easy course? Or something more difficult?
Remember, “You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.”
We all want to find that one thing we’re good at. That alignment between our persona; mission and work that is fulfilling. But you know what? Chances are we’re not the first person to have done it. There’s been a lot of people doing a lot of things throughout history. Even now, nearing 8 billion people, there are only so many “things” that can be done.
But no one can do your thing like you can. No one has the same you-ness that makes your contribution value. Not finding it, that deprives the world of what you were here to offer.
As Marianne Williamson wrote in A Return to Love: Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”
Wherever you go, that’s where you are.
There’s a joy in solitude if you take the time to listen to it. Blocking out the concerns of the world, the struggles you may be experiencing, or the uncertainty of it all. At this moment, you get to listen to that inner voice.
What is it saying?