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Time Poor

A friend of mine called me “time poor” this past week. I couldn’t agree more.

I’ve been balancing my time as best as I can. Sometimes, you bite off more than you can chew

But what do you do then? What do you do after you’ve taken the bite?

You can spit it out, I guess. Now, maybe some people are disappointed. Maybe you’re letting them down. But if it’s too much, it’s too much.

You can chew – try to work your way through it. Maybe it’s uncomfortable. Painful. Maybe it takes way too long.

Then, you can swallow it. Perhaps it’s okay. Perhaps you choke. But it’s done.

If you find yourself in the situation, the worst thing to do is just sit there. You can’t let inaction ruin you. Decide.

The best thing you can do is make the right decision. The next best thing is the wrong decision. The worst thing is no decision at all. 

A routine thing

Some writers like routine. Some writers need routine. Some writers seem to have no problem just getting to it.

I juggle writing with life. With work. With chores and dating and obligations. 

Steven Pressfield wrote a book, some time ago, called The War of Art. How to beat the resistance. I heard Seth Godin talking about it, and read it. 

It’s inspiring, but, however many years later, I only know that the Resistance is a powerful thing. 

If you can, give yourself every advantage against it. Otherwise, beating it back may not be possible when you’re trying to create something.

Traveling as education

We don’t seem to take interest in ourselves anymore. (This comes from a man of a certain age, so read that with a grain of salt.)

But, it seems that once you’ve acquired a certain place in your life, you content yourself with not really considering the implications. What makes me happy? 

It’s easier when you’re younger, sure. Quitting a job at 20 isn’t the same as quitting at 30 (or older). Constant travels to foreign countries – good for diplomats and travel influencers. Not for the salaryman.

And yet, travel gives our world meaning. You can’t know what your life is like in a vacuum. You have to travel outside of your environment, and see what the world has to offer. 

“Most people are on the world, not in it.” – John Muir

The Long Walk

Finally sat down to watch this. I had intended to see it when it released, but I just missed it. I do, regrettably, miss more films in theaters than I would like to, but the schedule doesn’t always work out in the way I try to make it.

So, popped a bag of popcorn, opened a can of pop, and settled into The Long Walk.

Knowing roughly the premise, it picks up right where it needs to. Ray being driven by his mother to the starting line. Now, in this world, there is not much that is explained. There was a war. There is some sort of dictatorship. As it goes on, you discover that many things are banned, the teaching of enjoyment of outlawed – books, music, likely other enjoyments.

You don’t see the upper class – those striving for the win are certainly of low economic status.

It’s possible that everyone applies to the Long Walk Lottery – only fifty are chosen each year, one from each state. 

And the winner gets a heap of money and one wish.

It’s in this environment that Ray meets Pete. And while at first, like the characters, you’re not sure if there’s substance there, as they walk on, so do we. And it becomes apparent that friendship can form in the strangest of places.

There are others who become a part of the pack, and a story of battlefield camaraderie takes hold. 

It isn’t long into the movie before the first contestant is removed, with extreme prejudice. Before the Title Crawl actually. And it lets the viewer know the stakes.

About halfway through, I found myself loving the relationship between Pete and Ray, and I was happy the story hinged on that. I’d not read the story, but I assumed I knew where the film was going. It still took a turn, and left several twists that I wouldn’t have expected. Plus a couple I’d called early.

Even still, at moments I would find tears in my eyes, and wish that, like one contestant said (paraphrasing) – “I’d wish that two could win the Long Walk, so that you had a chance to finish with your friend.”

Enjoyed it, but not sure if that’s one I’ll get around to watching again.

Short term vs. long

I’ve heard it repeated, frequently, and lately, that we often overestimate what we can do in the short term, and underestimate what we can do given years.

There’s something to that.

Looking at the pile of projects that I’ve agreed to take on, I understand the short term logic. But the long term – that’s a harder concept to wrap your head around.

Even given the somewhat rapid growth of the last ten years, I look back and can’t fathom how I got from there to here.

But, here I am. And the next ten will pass before I know it.

Who are we competing with

The more we get around people, the more likely we are to benefit. We benefit, unless we feel that everyone is in competition with us. (Sounds a bit like John Forbes Nash, no?)

When we think of scarcity – that we didn’t get something because someone else did, we start blaming. We start playing the victim. We lose perspective on what really matters.

There actually is enough to go around. It may not feel that way, but we’re doing so much better, in many ways, than what we’d have been like a hundred years ago.

So, try to complain a little less. Be a bit more empathetic. And while it’s not the point of doing so, you may actually see some new doors open.

On the lighter side

Yesterday ended up having a darker tone than I had intended, but it seemed to wrap up, so I didn’t want to attempt to gild the lily. I think we all our the culmination of our pasts, and everyday becomes our past at each day’s end.

It’s neither good nor bad, just who we are. And I think to be continually growing, learning, expanding our horizons is a positive way to live, and a way to make an impact on those around us.

And I think that’s something we all should aspire to.

Milestones

With the nation’s 250th anniversary behind us, I find myself thinking about personal milestones. Major moments in the history of my life.

Like everyone, I was deeply shaped by the novel coronavirus pandemic. Hard to believe that’s now been over six years since the world shut down.

Four years prior to that, I had a personal event upend my life, and I left nearly everything stable behind in favor of novelty and change. In an odd way, the pandemic actually fit into my of life more than it would have before that time.

And even earlier back, the terrorist attack on 9/11; graduations; deaths; births. It’s interesting how many things affect us, and that we carry with us through our lives.

Maybe it means that things will keep happening, and we’ll continue growing until it’s all over.

 

Revisiting

Looking back over a scratchpad from several years ago, there are some corollaries I’ve noticed – a sense of uncertainty, the struggling of friends trying to find their way, and my interests, which haven’t changed all that much. 

I think there are aspects of life that we notice when we get to glimpse thoughts we had previously, aspects we may neglect if we’re not paying attention. There are patterns in our lives, and that gives us direction, if we can take notice.

Finally doing it

I think this blog has been floating here since like 2016. Ten years. That’s mind-blowing to me.

Obviously it has gone through phases of my complete absence. But, and I’ve said it before, I’m pretty committed at this point. So much so that I’m finally making some changes to the layout.

I guess keep an eye out, and we’ll see how it works together.