What we want

What is it that we want out of life? I think knowing this answer leads us to a more truthful realization of our purpose.

We can’t just blindly go about, feeling in the dark, hoping to stumble upon the nature of reality and who we are.

We have to take time to think. To explore. To feel.

Opportunitity costs?

We make quick economic decisions all the time, on the fly. What is the opportunity cost of any action that you undertake? And hot damn, it isn’t nothing. 

I’m not sure that being aware of every opportunity cost is enough to change how we make most of our decisions.

But, at the same time, we should at least try to be a little aware of the things we’re sacrificing to accomplish something else.

What about pay

Sometimes you need pay.

All the time. You always need money.

But, money isn’t hard to come by. It’s just a function of what you’re willing to do. Can you clean toilets for $8 an hour? Absolutely! Will you…?

I have this heavily highlighted, dog-eared copy of Rolf Potts’s Vagabonding. Picked up in 2003, I recall thinking at that time that I was looking forward to traveling around the world. It took me years to first make it past the Americas, but I’ve seen larger swaths of the globe at this point.

But this passage is one that always sticks in my memory: “Of all the outrageous throwaway lines one hears in movies, there is one that stands out for me… It comes from Oliver Stone’s Wall Street, when the Charlie Sheen character – a promising big shot in the stock market – is telling his girlfriend about his dreams.


‘I think if I can make a bundle of cash before I’m thirty and get out of this racket…I’ll be able to ride my motorcycle across China.’


… Charlie Sheen or anyone else could work for eight months as a toilet cleaner and have enough money to ride a motorcycle across China.”

If you can change it

William James and Carl Lange purported that “We don’t cry because we’re sad; we’re sad because we cry.” 

That our emotional experience is a consequence of our physiological responses to a stimulus, rather than the other way around. 

Put simply, where goes our body, so goes our emotional state.

If you can change your location to what you consider a happier state, then you can become happier.

Get it done

You have to start figuring out ways to complete projects.

What tends to feel a little complicated doesn’t have to be.

Break it into tiny bits. Set times, and stick the routine. Track your progress.

And just start.